Hey, I’m going to push back against that idea a little bit. I think God can form a union out of any two people that are seeking Him with all their heart. I don’t think you need to date around. You can get a good idea of the “type” of person who you want to marry without actually dating 10 people.
When you’re ready to date, that definitely uncovers another layer, and there’s no condemnation for those that back out when they discover a reason not to go further with someone. Dating isn’t a vow to marry, but I don’t believe it’s right to date casually or just for the pleasure of dating.
I wouldn’t suggest dating unless you were able to marry someone within three years or less. So that means, in my opinion, most 14 year old dating is laughable.
Recognise that being married to someone takes a huge amount of maturity, selflessness and responsibility. Unless you’re ready for that mantle, I would stay out of the dating game.
Don’t date when you’re ready to be someone’s girlfriend, date when you’re ready to be someone’s spouse.